Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel that people are taking advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no to people? Maybe your personal boundaries aren’t exactly where they should be in order for you to be empowered. Here is a quick questionnaire for understanding where your boundaries are strong and where they are lacking.
1. Are you comfortable saying “no” when you need to?
(1) Always
(2) Sometimes
(3) Rarely
(4) Never
2. Do you communicate your needs and expectations clearly to others?
(1) Always
(2) Often
(3) Sometimes
(4) Rarely
3. How often do you prioritize self-care and personal time?
(1) Regularly
(2) Sometimes
(3) Rarely
(4) Never
4. Can you identify when someone is crossing your boundaries?
(1) Always
(2) Often
(3) Sometimes
(4) Rarely
5. Are you comfortable asking for space or time alone when you need it?
(1) Always
(2) Often
(3) Sometimes
(4) Rarely
6. Do you feel guilty when you assert your own needs?
(1) Rarely or Never
(2) Sometimes
(3) Often
(4) Always
7. How often do you compromise your own needs for the sake of others?
(1) Rarely or Never
(2) Sometimes
(3) Often
(4) Always
8. Do you have a clear understanding of your own personal boundaries?
(1) Yes, very clear
(2) Somewhat clear
(3) Not very clear
(4) Not at all clear
9. How often do you revisit and adjust your boundaries as needed?
(1) Regularly
(2) Sometimes
(3) Rarely
(4) Never
10. Are you able to end or limit relationships that consistently cross your boundaries?
(1) Yes, without hesitation
(2) Yes, with some difficulty
(3) No, it’s hard for me
(4) No, I find it nearly impossible
Scoring:
Assign points based on the answers given:
(1) = 4 points
(2) = 3 points
(3) = 2 points
(4) = 1 point
Total Answer Summary:
Add up the points from all 10 questions to get a total score. The higher the score, the better you’re doing at setting healthy boundaries. Keep in mind that this is just a self-assessment tool and not a professional evaluation. If you have want to strengthen your boundaries call me. I can help you set healthy boundaries for a better future!